What do we do when we feel lost? As most of us often do throughout this long journey of life. We look for something to get us through. In the social work field, these are known as coping skills. Though we aren’t always readily able to identify them as such. They aren’t always healthy, or even good for us, but they make us feel better. Even temporarily. We look to them to fill the void. To fix our sorrow, or numb our pain. Sometimes just to get us through the day.
Expectations. We all have them, whether we choose to admit that or not. It’s hard to not get your hopes up. To want to see the best in people. To want them to give you what you want. But that’s the thing. People are going to do what they’re going to do, and you have no control over that. As much as you have a say in your narrative, you don’t in others. You can attempt to guide them and offer them your support and input, ultimately at the end of the day they’re going to do what‘s best for them, or what they think is.
See— once you release what you think should happen, and accept what has happened— it sets you free. You are no longer at the mercy of the memory, or have to live in a false reality, wishing things could be different. Because you see what is really there, rather than what isn’t. Longing is an uncomfortable feeling. And it may not be what you want, rarely is it. But it may be the wake up call you need to deal with your experiences, and heal.
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